Both Lorenzo and G have mysteriously disappeared to celebrate the holidays and ring in the New Year. In their absence, I decided to research and post cultural, historical and statistical sexual trivia for your reading pleasure. Best wishes for 2015. Stay tuned for the return of the dynamic duo!
50 Cultural, Linguistic, and Statistical Facts from Random Facts
1. Scientists are unsure why humans have pubic hair, but they theorize that the hair traps secretions that hold pheromones, or sexual scents.
2. In women, the labia minora (singular: labium minus) vary more than any other part of the female genitalia. The labia minora (Latin for “smaller lips”) can range from pink, burgundy, brown, or a mixture of colors. They may be small, or large enough to extend beyond the labia majora (Latin for “larger lips”), and one may be longer than the other. Contrary to myth, they are not lengthened or wrinkled by masturbation.
3. The word “clitoris” is Greek for “divine and goddess like.” The clitoris is present only in female mammals. It is actually approximately 4 inches long, with 3/4 of the clitoris extending inside a female’s body.
4. The opening of the vagina is called the introitus, from the Latin intro or “into, within” + ire, meaning “to go into.”
5. Aphrodite, the goddess of sexual intercourse, emerged from the foaming semen of her father’s castrated testicles.
6. The word “vagina” means “sheath” or “scabbard” in Latin, suggesting that love and war have been connected for thousands of years.
7. The word “penis” is Latin for “tail” and is probably also from the Old English faesl, meaning “progeny” or “offspring.”
8. The vagina is not “a hole,” contrary to popular belief. It is instead, a potential space that can range from 2 to 2.5 inches wide from around 3 to 6 inches long, with the average vagina measuring 4.5 inches.
9. Known as the “veil of the temple,” the hymen is related to the word “hymn” and is named after the Greek god of marriage.
10. Usually one testicle hangs lower than the other. For most men, the left testicle hangs lower—but in some men, most commonly left-handed men, the right one hangs lower.
11. Men do not need to be sexually aroused to have an erection. Erections can occur if a man is frightened, nervous, or has a full bladder. It’s normal for a man to have several erections during the dream phase of sleep.
12. During a woman’s period, the opening of the cervix (Latin for “neck” or “nape of neck”) and uterus stretch slightly to allow the shedding of the endometrium. During this time, harmful sexually transmitted bacteria have easier access to the uterus, increasing the risk of serious pelvic infections. HIV is also more easily transmitted during a woman’s period.
13. Married people are more likely to masturbate than people living alone, according to the National Health and Social Life Survey (NHSLS).
14. For men seeking penile enlargement surgery, the average gain in size is about 1 inch when flaccid and 1/2 inch when erect. More than 65% of men who opt for penile enlargement surgery are dissatisfied with the result.
15. The condom is said to be named after the Earl of Condom, a British physician at the court of Charles II who was asked by the king to design him something to keep him from developing syphilis. The oiled sheep intestine was a big hit.
16. Though nudity was accepted in ancient Greece, an exposed erection was frowned upon. Additionally, a small penis was considered ideal.
17. The average number of times a healthy male will ejaculate in a lifetime is 7,200. Of this number, approximately 2,000 times will result from masturbation.
18. Most men have the most powerful erections during REM sleep. Researchers believe nighttime erections may be to preserve the elastic penile tissues.d
19. In 2000, the Mississippi state legislature introduced a bill to make it illegal for a male customer to have an erection at a strip club even if he is fully dressed.
20. Leonardo da Vinci discovered that blood filled an erect penis—not air, as had been previously believed.
21. Folk medicine used a variety of herbal potions and mechanical devices to harden the penis, such as crushed rhinoceros horn and pulverized antelope, deer, and horse testicles, as well as parings of human nails. Sometimes even a piece of bone was eased into the urethra.
22. President Lyndon B. Johnson referred to his penis as “Jumbo.”
23. A 1999 golf tournament in Australia offered a penis enlargement to the player with the longest drive.
24. The fear of having, seeing, or thinking about an erection is called ithyphallophobia.
25. Approximately 80 cases have been reported in medical literature of men born with two penises. A diphallus can present as either one organ that separates into two or as two distinct organs. The penises can be side by side, on top of each other, or in separate locations. Most men with diphallus are sterile.
26. The word “testis” (testes, plural) shares the same root as “testify” and comes from the Latin, meaning “witness.” This is perhaps because of the ancient Roman practice of a man’s bearing witness or “testifying” by holding his testis as he spoke.
27. When men of Australia’s Walibri tribe greet each other, they shake penises instead of hands.
28. Of all the primates, man has the largest penis. The gorilla has a two-inch penis, while the chimpanzee’s is three inches. The blue whale has the largest penis in the animal kingdom: 11 feet.
29. In 2003, a Texas man woke up from bladder surgery to discover that doctors had removed his penis without his permission.
30. Thirty-four percent of all American men ages 40 to 70, or about 20 million men, suffer from some significant level of erectile dysfunction (ED).
31. In 2004, Norwegian sexologists published a “Penis Atlas” which featured 100 photographs of men’s penises to correct and clarify misunderstandings about the male sex organs.
32. The ancient Romans thought penile hardness was directly linked to what a person ate. The shape, color, and flavor of food determined its impact on one’s sex life. Therefore root vegetables such as carrots became instant symbols of strength of libido.
33. A rumor that Ozti’s (Ice Man’s) scrotal sac still had viable sperm—quick-frozen as in sperm banks—prompted a number of Austrian women in the 1990s to ask if they could be artificially inseminated and have his baby.
34. To maximize oral sex, it is worth paying attention to what food you eat. Foods such as kiwi, celery, and pineapple can make genital secretion sweet. Dairy products, meat, and alcohol are generally thought to worsen the taste.
35. Upper Paleolithic art dating back 30,000 years depicts people using dildos to pleasure themselves and others. That means mankind invented sex toys long before the wheel.
36. Slang for “prostitute” in Victorian times was “blowsy” and slang for “ejaculation” was “blow,” leading to the current phrase “blow job.” In ancient Greece, a blow job was called “playing the flute.”
37. The average man has 11 erections per day and 9 erections a night.
38. The smell of pumpkin pie, licorice, chocolate, and donuts increase the blood to a man’s genitals.
39. Women who went to college are more likely to enjoy receiving and giving oral sex.
40. A teaspoon of semen contains 5 calories. A sperm takes one hour to swim seven inches.
41. There are between 500 and 1,000 deaths per year due to auto-erotic asphyxiation.
42. Avocados are known as the “fruit of the testicle tree” and are believed to have aphrodisiac qualities.
43. Sexual appeal is not all about body shape, weight, height, or breast size. Sex appeal is all of a person, such as his or her attitude, confidence, and the way he or she smells, walks and talks.
44. Remote-control panties are one type of sex toy. The vibrator is built into the panty itself and stays outside the body, providing vibrations to the clitoris and outer vagina.
45. When a drone (a male honey bee) mates with a queen bee, its abdomen is ripped open during copulation and it dies soon after.
46. The word “pornography” is from the Greek pornographos—from porne = “prostitute,” which originally meant “bought” or “purchased,” and graphos= “to write.”
47. Formicophilia is the sexual interest of small insects or worms crawling over one’s body.
48. Contrary to popular opinion, the word “fuck” is not an acronym for the phrase “Fornication Under Command of the King.” It is a very old word that is hard to trace because the editors of the initial Oxford English Dictionary considered the word taboo in 1893. It may have a Scandinavian origin, similar to the Norwegian word fukka, meaning to “copulate,” or the Swedish foka, meaning “to copulate, strike, push,” or fock, meaning “penis.”
49. Sex hasn’t always been associated with sin and guilt. Pre-Christian religions often regarded sex as a celebration and as a form of worship. Sex was seen as mirroring the sensual power of the Gods.
50. Roxxy is the world’s first sex robot. It costs between $7,000-9,000. She comes with artificial intelligence and five personalities, and weighs approximately 120 pounds. Customers can customize her features, including breast size, the color of her hair, and her race. A male robot, named Rocky, is also in the works.
Berman, Laura. 2008. Real Sex for Real Women: Intimacy, Pleasure, and Sexual Well-Being. New York, NY: Dorling Kindersley Limited.
“Frequently Asked Questions to the Kinsey Institute.” The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction. July 15, 2010.
Hutcherson, Hilda, M.D. 2002. What Your Mother Never Told You about Sex. G.P. Putnam’s Sons.
Lamm, Steven, M.D. 2005. The Hardness Factor. HarperCollins.
Macleod, Dan and Debra. 2007. Lube Jobs: A Woman’s Guide to Great Sex. HarperCollins.
“Penis.” Online Etymology Dictionary.
“Roxxy Sex Robot: World’s First Sex Robot Can Do More Than Chat.” Huffington Post. March 18, 2010.
Taylor, Timothy. 1996. The Prehistory of Sex: Four Million Years of Human Sexual Culture. Bantam Books.
The next set of sexual information was published on the website getfrank.
1. Other than the genitals and the breasts, the inner nose is the only other body part that routinely swells during intercourse – this is because it is made from the same type of erectile tissue as the penis.
2. Humans aren’t the only species that partake in oral sex; cheetahs, hyenas, and goats all go down too.
3. In 1609, a doctor named Johannes Jacob Wecker reported finding a corpse in Bologna with two penises (a condition called diphallia). Since then, approximately 100 cases of similarly endowed men have been recorded.
4. The sperm of a mouse is longer than the sperm of an elephant.
5. Almost all mammals besides humans (like bears and dogs) actually have a bone in their penis.
6. Despite her three husbands and a parade of famous lovers (including John F. Kennedy, Frank Sinatra and Joe DiMaggio), it was a psychiatrist that finally helped Marilyn Monroe, the most celebrated sex icon of the 20th century, achieve her first orgasm shortly before her death.
7. There is a lot more to the clitoris than meets the eye. It is shaped like a wishbone and is about 3 to 4 1/2 inches long.
8. In 1899 the then President of France, Francois Faure, allegedly died while receiving oral stimulation. When his mademoiselle realized her monsieur was stiff for all the wrong reasons, she panicked, suffered trauma-induced lockjaw, and was rushed to hospital where she had to be pried from the penis of the passed-on President.
9. Male honeybees (Drones) only get to have sex once in their life… they die after mating because the penis and associated abdominal tissues are ripped from their body after intercourse.
10. Apparently when Captain Cook visited the Kingdom of Tonga in 1777, King Fatafehi Paulah had been busy fulfilling what he believed to be his ‘royal duty’ of taking the virginity of every woman in his kingdom. It is estimated that he deflowered 37,800 during his lifetime and never slept with the same woman twice.
11. Exhaustive research published by Johnson & Johnson found that the average time between penetration and male orgasm is 7.3 minutes – this involved 1,587 couples having stopwatch-timed sex.
12. The penalty for masturbation in Indonesia is decapitation.
13. The female bedbug has no sexual opening. To get around this dilemma, the male instead pierces females with his hypodermic genitalia and ejaculates into the body cavity.
14. Lipstick is rumored to have been invented in the Egyptian times for women who wanted their lips to look more inviting – apparently red lips resemble the vagina of a wanton woman anxious for sexual fulfilment…
15. The clitoris is the only organ in the human body that has just one purpose – pleasure.
And finally, take a moment to read my past post about the discovery of Scottish fish being the first to initiate internal sexual intercourse 385 million years ago!
I have always loved the verb “to whisper”, especially when spoken in French and Italian. The word in French is “chuchoter” (shoe-show- tay) and in Italian “susurrare” (sue-sue- rar-a). Both pronunciations truly are sexy whispers in themselves.
The modern use of the word whisperer, however, does not necessarily involve whispering. It first appeared as a general therapeutic method in the movie The Horse Whisperer, directed by and starring Robert Redford. He plays a talented trainer with a remarkable gift for understanding horses. He is hired to help both an injured teenager and her horse back to physical and mental health after a tragic accident. He communicates with them softly and slowly and the ending is a happy one. It was a heartwarming story and a big box office success. It placed the word whisperer on the global radar screen.
The connotation of a therapeutic healing whisperer continued with National Geographic Wild’s popular reality television series featuring trainer Cesar Millan’s work with troubled dogs. He was dubbed the Dog Whisperer and was highly praised for his efforts in helping man’s best friend. By the way, a woman’s best friend is usually a cat. The cat pet population for women has now exceeded the dog one for man!
Last month I heard the term the Vagina Whisperer for the first time and was highly intrigued. What is a Vagina Whisperer? Katie Couric interviewed Ellen Dolgen, a prominent woman’s health and wellness advocate. Her husband nicknamed her The Vagina Whisperer because of the therapeutic advice she gives to women from her blog and her website. She is the weekly host of Menopause Mondays where she combines interactive humor on a variety of sexual topics, hence her nickname. She created an entertaining video, “A Singing Uterus Explains Perimenopause and Menopause” to educate women about symptoms and solutions for dealing with menopause.
This humorous video reminded me a bit of Bette Midler belting out her ballad about Otto Titslinger and the invention of the brassiere in her movie Beaches. Visit my Mammary Memoir post to enjoy her performance!
The idea of a woman as a Vagina Whisperer seemed a bit strange to me. My personal take on this term was to imagine a sexy man whispering seductively to me. I would prefer to have a “mature” Sean Connery, my favorite James Bond, as my vagina whisperer.
The Urban Dictionary’s definition is 1) a person able to talk themselves into any girl’s pants and 2) a lesbian. The female host on the Candy Diaries website pulled no punches declaring “No matter if it’s a look, a touch or a kiss your vagina instantly responds. He’s a Vagina Whisperer. He’s one of those very few men that can talk your vag off a ledge!”
Lady Gaga has another take on the word. She proclaimed herself a vagina whisperer because she listens to the musings of her own vagina for her creative attire and musical inspiration. In an interview with Howard Stern she explained “Whatever my vagina whispers to me, I say: “Yes, inspiration! It doesn’t come all the time.”
In his fascinating chapter about the ancient Hindu practice of tantric sex, G describes the sensual ritual between the yoni (vagina) and the lingam (penis).
I also discovered term Penis Whisperer during my whisper research. Definitions range from a seductive female lover, a male homosexual or a men’s health educator. Read what Lorenzo and G have written about women in this provocative category “Can a Woman Learn to Be a Lover? What Does G Have to Say?”
In my study I have piles of publications on a variety of topics ranging from medicine and science to sex. The other day, I found a few dealing with the acrobatic acts of women during sex. All enthusiastically embraced the belief that such acts dramatically increase the mental and physical pleasures of female sex. Nothing was mentioned about the men.
Some of the positions discussed are “being on top”, “doggy style” and another without a name. The latter is when a man is standing and stroking away while the woman is on her back on some type of platform such as a kitchen sink or the hood of a car. Being on top was rated as the most exhilarating experience because a woman feels in charge which creates the powerful fantasy of domination. And regardless of the type of acrobatic sex, “dirty talk” or “fantasy talk” by the man was considered essential to maximize the pleasure hit. No description of the nature
Now I’m no prude and have been around for a long time, but there’s little real solid clinical data on the pros and cons of acrobatic sex. I’m excluding dungeons and whippings from this category. It’s interesting to note that “69” was not mentioned.
Once more I called G and, as usual, he burst out into laughter when I asked him the lead questions whether he had experiences with acrobatic women and, if so, what happened?
“Sure I did: Many times. I would guess that out of the approximate 300 women who I’ve been with, maybe 20- plus or minus.”
I then told him about the acrobatic articles and wanted his take on them based on his personal experiences.
“Lorenzo, rather than ask me lots of specific questions, let me briefly tell you my overall view and some experiences for, believe it or not, there’s some subtle psychology involved. You mentioned to me, as an example, about gals sitting on top and having fantasies of feelings of power which I’m sure happens. But, frankly speaking, acrobatics was never a main part of my sexual encounters. The more I think about, and I haven’t really thought about this in depth, I would classify them as diversions and not the primary- pardon my pun- thrust of my encounters. And, come to think about it, except for a couple of events, in the book I didn’t mention the acrobatic ones.
“Anyway, getting to being on top- I never encouraged it because I don’t like it. It was always the women who took the initiative, and, I would say, they generally, but not big time, enjoyed it. The younger ones, however, enjoyed it more than the older ones.”
“G, why is this?”
“People don’t realize that it’s a lot of work for a woman, and the younger ones can physically handle it better. A couple of the older ladies got significant thigh cramps which was a negative hit. Lorenzo, you don’t see older female acrobats at the Olympics!”
“G, did I hear you right? You said you didn’t enjoy it but over the years most guys I know say they really like it. Why didn’t you like it?”
“Lorenzo, my doctor friend, you’re the reason! When you were a young doctor, you told me about a guy who came to the emergency room in utter agony screaming to beat the band. He had a fractured penis and couldn’t pee. His bladder was about to burst followed by life- threatening peritonitis. It was necessary to reconnect the severed urethra by ramming a rod through the muscles of his penis up to the bladder, and, if I remember correctly, without anesthesia! I asked you how this happened, and your answer has never left my memory bank. The guy had a hard-on while the lady was on top making big time vigorous movements which led to his fractured pecker. Then you told me that this scenario was a common cause of a fractured penis. So every time a woman sits on me, I think about the potential of having a rod rammed through my penis, and I’m, needless to say, very, very careful about how it’s done and do my best to get it over with without ruining the woman’s pleasure.
“If I ever have sex again with a woman who wants to be on top, I can tell you that request would be diplomatically rejected.
“ If guys knew about this problem there would be a dramatic reduction of penis-sitting and, I’m not kidding, an increase in sitting on the face. There’s something about “sitting.”
“What’s your take on doggy style and the one without a name?”
“We used to call doggy style ‘the Eskimo position” because that’s how, as I understand it, our northern neighbors do it. I also think that’s the position babies are delivered. Anyway, unlike being on top, I was the one who initiated the position, usually as a minor diversion in a heavy domination scene. It served a purpose but, now my memory is not clear on this, there weren’t many great lady orgasms. But to repeat, it wasn’t meant to do that but just to keep the ball rolling.
“Regarding the no-name position, in theory, it, like what I said about muff-diving before, offers the potential of a man’s and woman’s pelvis to become more closely connected than when in bed. Unfortunately, the theory doesn’t hold one main reason one can do more in bed.
“Lorenzo, let me conclude by saying that most high-level, beautiful sex takes place on the bed with a woman on her back- sans acrobatics!”
In a recent post, I raised the possibility that the frenulum is the male G-spot. It’s located at the base of the penis where the back part of the glans or head meets the shaft. Then I remembered what G had to say about women when I interviewed him in the book, The Man Who Made Love to More Women than Casanova. G, who bedded with about 300 women, claims that there is no specific female G-spot. In the book, here’s what he had to say about it, the clitoris and the vagina:
“Regarding what stimulates the clitoris the most, I have no general formula for it can vary, even during the same sexual encounter.”
“Now let me state the obvious, for it’s important that I do so: the clitoris has a top, bottom and two sides, and each can have its own sensitivities at a point in time during the sexual act, and can respond differently to a specific type of stimulation. For example, you can start with the tongue, moving the clitoris from side to side or actually sucking the entire vulva area, including the clitoris. I have found the latter more effective, but it depends on the art of how you do it. Then you place your finger on the bottom or top of the clitoris and gently flip it up or down or enter the vagina and press your penis against it, holding it still for a while. But, to repeat, you’re also doing other things when you can, such as inflicting pain to the nipples or whispering in the ear opening the doors to her fantasies.”
“If you’re referring to an insensitive clitoris, they are around. Though I do this to most women when I enter the vagina, I do it more with the insensitive ladies. I enter, lift the penis and firmly press against the clitoris- and I don’t move for at least a minute. Of course, I’m doing other things at the same time. Then I stroke very, very slowly. This usually works.”
“… I’ve often wondered about the vaginal orgasm. If it’s there, how the hell does one by pass the clitoris and isolate the vagina? When you’re stroking away, you’re in contact with both the clitoris and vagina; plus, you’re doing other things. But I’ll make a couple of observations that support the vagina G-spot or spots. When you’re performing cunnilingus, sometimes women are really aroused but can’t quite come to climax. If you continue with that but then insert two fingers or a dildo into the vaginal canal and pump away, they almost always have orgasms. Also, I’ve come across women who- no matter what you do in addition to stimulating the clitoris- don’t reach climax until you insert the penis and stroke away.”
Though G never mentioned it, my reading of the above is that the female G-spot is the frenulum, Frenulum clitoridis!
It’s, like the male frenulum, loaded with sensitive nerves and located right under and smack against the clitoris. So when G was manipulating the clitoris, because of its location, he was also stimulating the frenulum. When he came upon an insensitive clitoris, he inserted and lifted his penis which pressed against the frenulum. And it worked! And when he spoke about a women who was sensitive to clitoral stimulation but could not come to climax unless her inserted his penis or a dildo, he concluded that there is a vaginal G-spot when, in fact, he actually stimulated the frenulum.
As in a criminal case, we are dealing here not with definite proof but circumstantial evidence. Without doubt, at this point the evidence is weak but not weak enough to exclude further pursuit of the case. In the meantime, let’s not forget the moisturized Vaseline!
Not too long ago someone asked me if there’s a male G- spot. Also, if so, is there a difference between circumcised and uncircumcised men?
I hadn’t the slightest idea so I did a web search and discovered that about anything a woman does to a man can turn him on from biting and breathing heavily on the ear, massaging a man’s prostate either on the outside of the body where fingers are placed between the anus and scrotum or actually placing the fingers in the anus, tonguing the raphe of the scrotum to biting his nipples. I could find no evidence of a male G’s-spot existence.
Then I searched for differences between men whose phalluses’ had been raped or circumcised and uncircumcised ones regarding the pleasure of the sexual act. It’s believed that the head of the circumcised penis is less sensitive than one with a prepuce leading to diminished sensations. I’ll repeat what I’ve said before and will keep reminding you. Most clinical studies are flawed and so also with these studies. Though I wouldn’t be surprised if they exist, I could find no proven differences.
Before I gave up the search, I decided to call G to find out whether he discussed this subject with the 300 gals whom he bedded with: In otherwords, right to the horse’s mouth. He did recall having conversations with many of them about men’s ways of making love but searched his memory bank for the G-spot discussions. Suddenly, he said, “Lorenzo, you won’t believe this. I do remember three separate discussions with them, and all found that their men’s G-spots were right where the bottom of the head of the penis meets the shaft. They would place their thumb directly on it and slowly move it up and down along with skin that moved over the rim of the glans or penile head. All said that they didn’t speed up much just before orgasm, and I don’t remember the reason why. I do, however, remember one thing that struck me. They all used Vaseline because the men were circumcised periodically applying it to the area. Maybe the reason why I remembered these three and not other conversations is because they were strikingly similar.
“Also here’s something else. Some of the best oral sex I experienced with women were those who with their tongues, and only a few knew how to do it, sensually caressed the same spot but, of course, without Vaseline. I understand that the top of the line ladies of the night are expert at this technique.”
Curious that his experiences might offer a clue to the male G-spot, I looked up the anatomy of the penis and discovered that where the ladies thumbs and tongues were placed is called the frenulum preputi penis which is a heavily innervated tissue that connects the prepuce to the shaft of the penis. One can reasonably assume that, though not unequivocally proven, with a prepuce of an uncircumcised man moving up and down over the frenulum during intercourse or other sexual acts, the sensation is greater than that with an over-exposed, insensitive one as a result of circumcision. But, I wondered whether Vaseline would nullify this disadvantage.
Now here’s my theory: In circumcised men the frenulum is more exposed to direct touch that those with prepuces. When the ladies place Vaseline on it, it not only took the place of the prepuce but is superior to it because of a direct, more concentrated lubricant contact.
Though G disagrees, most believe that the female clitoris is the principle G-spot of women. I have a hunch that the frenulum may be the G-spot of men, and this possibility should be explored. The only way to prove this is in a clinical study with a sophisticated protocol which I’m thinking about. On the other hand, my advice to you is, “Why wait – and don’t forget the Vaseline!”