In a previous post we mentioned that G and I believe that the frenulum is probably the main male G-spot, particularly in circumcised men.
Last week we had a delightful bi-annual dinner reunion in Philadelphia with eight old colleagues. During dinner the subject of our previous post on the frenulum and the male G-spot came up for discussion. With one exception, all around the table were circumcised.
Interestingly enough, all of them had discussed the post with their male friends and all agreed that the frenulum was a huge major zone of male eroticism which, generally speaking, women have, for unexplainable reasons, failed to exploit. Though there are no clinical studies to prove it, we all agreed that men probably do a better job on the female clitoris-frenulum G-spot than females do on theirs. Maybe because men are better exploratory lovers when it comes to locating the G-spot than women. We all agreed that we just don’t have the facts.
If you recall, the extremely sensitive male frenulum connects the skin of the penis to just below the circumcised head. It’s easy to see but women generally miss it- and not for reasons which have to do with poor vision and a lack of bifocals! The best ways to stimulate the frenulum are as follows: If by hand, the moisturized Vaseline or equivalent should be periodically placed directly on the frenulum and the thumb also placed directly on the frenulum while stroking; by mouth, the tongue should periodically massage it while pulling the skin over it. We were not sure about the use of vibrators because of our lack of experiencing this method. But whatever the method, to maximize the orgasm, the upfront process should be slow with speeding up at the end that most men like but others prefer to continue with the slow pace.
Our conversation took us to a lengthy discussion of massage parlors and masseuses. Over the years all of us, including discussions with others from gardeners to lawyers and in one way or another, have visited the parlors and talked about experiences with masseuses. After dinner, while in a private smoke- proof back room, some of the guys lighted their cigars and G his pipe and continued our discussion.
We characterized two types of men who visit massage parlors into two groups: The sexually satisfied and the difficult to satisfy. Now it would take a 5 year, multimillion dollar clinical study to clearly characterize the characteristics of both groups but we, out of curiosity, took a crack at it. Regarding satisfied men, they are by far in the majority. Generally speaking, the younger the man the easier to satisfy. All the masseuse has to do is to rapidly stroke the penis for a very brief period of time before the happy moment happens. Also, there are the guys who, for a number of reasons, simply almost never “get enough” and are the easiest to please. And then there are the guys where the massage, itself, is sensual and easily relaxes them enough for the big moment. All enviable men!!
Now let’s look at the minority of unsatisfied men: The observations of our colleagues and friends all boil down to that certain minds are more complicated than others requiring a higher level of mental and physical sexual know-how from the woman.
The following are some revealing observations and comments that were generally agreed upon: Practically all masseuses have a mechanical delivery style just like a jack-hammer rapidly jerking-off a guy until he comes. No finesse at all.
Very few have sexual body language, and there is a virtual absence of seductive verbal language. Their attire, let’s say, is not worn in a stimulating way. You would think they would pay more attention to these things because they would earn much bigger tips. Go figure.
To repeat, they fail to locate and properly stimulate the frenulum of the circumcised penis.
Not too long ago Asian women, many Korean, have become major players in massage parlors. Unfortunately, a high percentage cannot understand, let alone speak, the English language. This frustrates any attempt by a man to describe what he wants. Interestingly enough, even if she does understand, she generally misses the target. And here’s another point: Most of the complicated guys don’t like to explain to the masseuses what they like for it robs the event of its mystery which fuels fantasies. Also, if she doesn’t deliver after she’s told, it can cause severe penile depression!
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again; the masseuse market, like the early biotechnology one, is ready to be exploited. And, like the biotech market, it requires creative entrepreneurs to start a franchise, like McDonalds, where the masseuses are trained to sexually satisfy men including ways to stimulate the circumcised frenulum. These entrepreneurs will make a fortune.
But there is a legal problem. In the past and even today, it is against the law for a masseuse to jerk-off a guy. If he requests and she agrees, it’s consider an act of prostitution. A guy has to somehow convince her that he is not a cop because cops do pretend to be a regular guy and entrap the poor ladies. If the lady gives the cop, after his request, sexual relief she is – I’m not sure if handcuffed-taken to the police station and charged with the crime of prostitution. What an assignment for a cop! If a regular guy with hormones flowing makes the request and is refused by the masseuse that, in itself, is a sexual downer.
But, though I’m not sure of the legal status, a couple of guys told me that in certain massage parlors masturbation comes with the massage fee. No need to ask for the service as with a prostitute! This is considered consensual sex between two adults for the man can refuse. Then it’s up to the man to leave a voluntary tip which is not considered a payment to a prostitute.
If the doors are opened, and I’m sure the courts will agree, that this type of massage is legal, then entrepreneurs could enter the marketplace. The masseuses, educated by the corporate leader specialists, will then be motivated to function on a higher sexual level and not bored because of their huge tip income- and it will be huge.
When our wonderful evening was coming to a close, one of our friends wondered whether, with the explosive sexual revolution, women would flock to masseur massage parlors for vaginal-clitoral stimulation or even vaginal dildo services.
We took a final sip of our cognacs, shrugged our shoulders in silence and called it a night.
Not too long ago someone asked me if there’s a male G- spot. Also, if so, is there a difference between circumcised and uncircumcised men?
I hadn’t the slightest idea so I did a web search and discovered that about anything a woman does to a man can turn him on from biting and breathing heavily on the ear, massaging a man’s prostate either on the outside of the body where fingers are placed between the anus and scrotum or actually placing the fingers in the anus, tonguing the raphe of the scrotum to biting his nipples. I could find no evidence of a male G’s-spot existence.
Then I searched for differences between men whose phalluses’ had been raped or circumcised and uncircumcised ones regarding the pleasure of the sexual act. It’s believed that the head of the circumcised penis is less sensitive than one with a prepuce leading to diminished sensations. I’ll repeat what I’ve said before and will keep reminding you. Most clinical studies are flawed and so also with these studies. Though I wouldn’t be surprised if they exist, I could find no proven differences.
Before I gave up the search, I decided to call G to find out whether he discussed this subject with the 300 gals whom he bedded with: In otherwords, right to the horse’s mouth. He did recall having conversations with many of them about men’s ways of making love but searched his memory bank for the G-spot discussions. Suddenly, he said, “Lorenzo, you won’t believe this. I do remember three separate discussions with them, and all found that their men’s G-spots were right where the bottom of the head of the penis meets the shaft. They would place their thumb directly on it and slowly move it up and down along with skin that moved over the rim of the glans or penile head. All said that they didn’t speed up much just before orgasm, and I don’t remember the reason why. I do, however, remember one thing that struck me. They all used Vaseline because the men were circumcised periodically applying it to the area. Maybe the reason why I remembered these three and not other conversations is because they were strikingly similar.
“Also here’s something else. Some of the best oral sex I experienced with women were those who with their tongues, and only a few knew how to do it, sensually caressed the same spot but, of course, without Vaseline. I understand that the top of the line ladies of the night are expert at this technique.”
Curious that his experiences might offer a clue to the male G-spot, I looked up the anatomy of the penis and discovered that where the ladies thumbs and tongues were placed is called the frenulum preputi penis which is a heavily innervated tissue that connects the prepuce to the shaft of the penis. One can reasonably assume that, though not unequivocally proven, with a prepuce of an uncircumcised man moving up and down over the frenulum during intercourse or other sexual acts, the sensation is greater than that with an over-exposed, insensitive one as a result of circumcision. But, I wondered whether Vaseline would nullify this disadvantage.
Now here’s my theory: In circumcised men the frenulum is more exposed to direct touch that those with prepuces. When the ladies place Vaseline on it, it not only took the place of the prepuce but is superior to it because of a direct, more concentrated lubricant contact.
Though G disagrees, most believe that the female clitoris is the principle G-spot of women. I have a hunch that the frenulum may be the G-spot of men, and this possibility should be explored. The only way to prove this is in a clinical study with a sophisticated protocol which I’m thinking about. On the other hand, my advice to you is, “Why wait – and don’t forget the Vaseline!”