Chennakesava temple, Somanathapura, Karnataka, India. 13th century heterosexual anal sex: photo by Nagarjun Kandukuru
The CDC or Center for Disease Control conducted a survey which reported that sodomy is on the increase. I just saw a video where a smiling young lady- and I had a hunch why she was smiling- reported that sodomy among young heterosexual male and female adults was increasing.
Frankly speaking, and making the assumption that sodomy is increasing, I became curious as to why a man would want to sodomize a woman instead of entering her vagina and why a woman would want a penis stroking into her anus instead of her vagina. Is it usually done because one or more partners really enjoy it or done simply because men and women are seeking a more experiential type of sexual pleasure or both? Also, is it done routinely or only now and then?
I turned to the Internet for answers and came up empty. Interestingly enough, when I searched for “sodomy” almost all references deal with homosexual men, venereal disease such as AIDs and the cultural mindsets and laws surrounding this act including the execution of homosexual males which still exits in certain cultures. There’s almost a vacuum of information on heterosexual sodomy, and that’s because solid clinical studies on this subject are few. It has escaped medicine’s purview.
I believe it’s safe to assume that heterosexual sodomy, like oral sex, began even before the first recorded civilization of Sumeria. During the Renaissance the powerful and feared gossip columnist, Aretino, wrote Sonnetti lussoriosi or Lewd sonnets describing controversial artistic engravings that depicted women craving to be sodomized. Needless to say, fearing a Catholic Church reprisal, he left Rome in a hurry but returned after the emotional fire was spent.
I called my “sex consultant group” of young men and, to my surprise, though sodomy was done by some, it wasn’t a big deal and performed on an extremely limited basis. This led me to wonder whether there was something wrong with reports claiming a dramatic increase in anal sex. Time will tell.
Believe it or not, because of my limited research resources, the only credible one on heterosexual sodomy was my old friend, G. I don’t remember the exact numbers, but he did sodomize a small number of the 300 hundred women with whom he bedded. We had talked about it before but my memory was hazing about the facts and, surprisingly, so was his when I called and raised the subject. We both had a hearty laugh about the memory loss associated with the oncoming of years. We started our conversation by comparing homosexual male sodomy versus heterosexual sodomy and the one huge difference between them. Lacking vaginas, homosexuals have little choice but to take to the anus. They have, however, like heterosexual males, the options of being masturbated by his partner, penis between the thighs or intercrural sex and oral sex, among others. What came up in our conversation was a subject that never occurred to us before. Do most male homosexuals take pleasure in being sodomized or, as with women faking orgasms, do it to please their partners? There’s little doubt that many men have very tight anuses that, for example, are painful when a physician does a rectal on a routine physical examination or a penis passes through them. The anal walls do not have the relaxing capacity of vaginal ones and for that reason homosexual men inhale amyl nitrite or poppers which dilate the anal sphincter. Poppers also deliver a brief heated rush and temporary high which heightens the pleasure. Even so, there is no reliable information how homosexual men feel about anal sex. The same, of course, holds true for women.
Anyway, getting back to G and his women, here’s what he had to say about them:
“I think in the book I talked about how I’m an ‘ass man’ and not so much a ‘breast man’ when it comes to being attracted to a woman. A sensually shaped lady’s rear end does more to turn on my BGL hormone center than her tits. Don’t get me wrong, breasts do turn me on but not nearly as much as a rear end. What’s interesting is that there are lots and lots more women with sensual breasts than derrieres, and I’m not at all talking just about big breasts- not at all. I mention my breasts experiences in the book. It’s complicated territory.
“ I have had more than a few encounters with women that I sodomized. Being an ass man you would think that I loved it. But here’s the paradox. Not so! I never really enjoyed it and performed the act only to please the woman. Lorenzo, I’m now searching my memory bank of these encounters and how I would summarize what happened.
“It happened in two ways: Either the woman- point blank- requested it or they gave me strong, unequivocal clues for me to take the initiative. They all, with no exception, enjoyed it immensely, sometimes as much as vaginal nymphomaniacs who I’ve been with. Here’s an example: One time I was in a ménage a trois scene when one of the ladies gave me little choice but to manually sodomize her. Concerned that she would be left out of this sex encounter, I looked at the other lady for some type of silent, visual body language approval. She, being flexible and the curious type, nodded her head in approval and assumed the role of a spectator.
“I sat on the sofa, and she took a supine position lying on my thighs with her rear end positioned just below my belly button. Even for this sex post I’m reluctant to describe certain unpleasant details. Considering the geographic landscape, use your imagination!
“Anyway, I did begin with some physical, teasing foreplay- I decided to remain silent- and then entered her body with my index finger encountering zero resistance. She asked for ‘more’ and I, step by step, added finger after finger until all had comfortably entered. At first, I stroked gently but responding to her body language and her degree of moaning, and she did moan- big-time, I increased the stroked force; the more forceful the stroking the more intense the moaning. Her multiple orgasms were huge, and I, after about almost one-half hour and much to her disappointment, called it quits.
“Lorenzo, as I’m telling this story other past memories of sodomized women are jumping to mind. It’s always fascinated me how the brain can make connections from seemingly unconnected things. I don’t remember ever ejaculating during the act itself. Also, I never had straight or vaginal sex after sodomizing women. Either a hand-job or oral sex followed. Now don’t ask me why. It could have been that these women cleverly led me down this path because of their dislike of vaginal sex. But the more I think about, I also had little desire for straight sex with them and preferred the other methods.”
After further conversation and deliberation, G and I concluded that little is known about heterosexual sodomy. We both agree that it’s increasing but know that the vast majority of women, though they may experiment with the act, don’t like it and much prefer the penis in the vagina. Then there’s also the G factor: Maybe most men, like women, don’t like it too and much prefer their penises in the front instead of the back!
To those of you who are not yet familiar with the BGL or Brain Genital Law, it states that, in order to propagate the human race through heterosexual mating and the production of babies, the brain goes overboard and indiscriminately stimulates and arouses the genitals to copulate in all kinds of ways from fetishes to homosexuality. According to the BGL, all such acts are, like heterosexual ones, natural and to be expected. All societies, however, in one way or another, place limits on its free expression such as prohibiting premarital sex, sodomy and homosexuality.
Though I’m sure it exists, I couldn’t find a simple, practical and easy to understand classification of the categories of the complicated world of human sexual behavior. Unlike the precision of mathematics, the dividing lines among the sexual categories are understandably blurred and oftentimes overlap. But we must at least try to bring some clarity where there is currently confusion and understandable ignorance. The following is a proposed classification:
– Changing sexuality
– Solo Sexuality
– Fetish Sexuality
– Pedophilia, Hebephilia and Ephebophilia Sexuality
– Transgenderism Sexuality
Heterosexuality involves straight forward copulation between a man and a woman which is essential to fulfill the evolutionary mandate to propagate the human race. It is by far the most common type among the categories, and, by the way, the reason why we all exist. On the other hand, there are some heterosexuals who sometimes fantasize about making love to someone of the same sex, but never do. Then there are heterosexuals who not only think about it but who have dabbled with same-sex partners, but only on rare or very infrequent occasions.
Bisexuality is the second most common category and is, for some puzzling reason, universally mislabeled as homosexuality. This, in my opinion, is the most rapidly expanding form of human sexual relations in our country but is, for another puzzling reason, hardly addressed as such. Bisexuals copulate with both sexes. Therefore, as with heterosexuals, bisexuals fulfill the mandate to propagate the race.
Homosexuality is not at all as common as we are led to believe. It involves having virtually exclusive sex with same-sex partners over a person’s lifetime. If we stick to this definition, it is the third less common category and doesn’t fulfill the evolutionary mandate to propagate the race. Seth Stephens-Davidowitz, in a laborious and admirable attempt to determine how many American men are homosexual, did not isolate, which is virtually impossible to do, bisexuals from bona fide homosexuals. Indirectly, however, his findings indicate that much of what he has come across deals with bisexuality- not homosexuality! (LINK: “How Many American Men are Gay” NY Times December 8, 2013).
Changing sexuality: To complicate things a man and woman may fall into a different sex category at a point in time. They may start out as a homosexual, then to a bisexual, then to a heterosexual. Over the years I’ve known a few of such couples who now appear to have a stable marriage. Of course, the gender passage can go in the opposite direction where heterosexuals end up with homosexual partners. I’ve also known a few of them.
Fetishes are multiple in types ranging from domination to golden rain to foot-worshiping and are becoming increasingly prevalent among both sexes. There is little information on how often fetishes culminate into a heterosexual act but we can reasonably assume that they are not major players in propagating the human race.
Pedophilia, hebephilia and ephebophilia: (LINK TO PAST POST). Though reliable data are virtually impossible to come by involving adults having sexual relationships with prepubescent children and teens up to the age of nineteen, it is almost certain that they are all increasing due to our rapidly changing sexual values and decreasing parental supervision. Bottom line, they are not a factor in producing new babies.
Solo- Sexuality deals mainly with masturbation and in vitro fertilization. Our exploding rate of masturbation is, in large part, due to the Internet. A man or woman now has access- at the immediate time of desire and without barriers- to Internet porno which provides the whole ball of wax of ways to stimulate the BGL. Masturbation, without the need of studies or surveys to convince the most skeptical of minds, will not propagate the race. In his book, Confessions, the French philosopher, Jean-Jaques Rousseau, openly spoke about his sexual life including his masochism and exhibitionism. I do not share this type of openness. But I can imagine that, if I were young and had readily available to me all BGL stimuli at an instant, I would not be inclined to read Shakespeare’s Hamlet or study Einstein’s Theory of Relativity. Regarding in vitro fertilization or IVF, these methods, which are growing in number, will increase baby production but which outcomes will not be known until the future. I would strongly advise that caution on these evolving procedures be taken.
Transgenderism is a very small but rapidly evolving and complicated social-legal category in America. It’s when someone’s BGL tells his or her mind that their body represents the wrong sex. Transgender sex will have minimal impact on the propagation of the human species.
I hope this attempt at sexual classification sheds some light on the complexities of human sexual behavior. I would, however, like to add that I’m particularly intellectually interested in the bursting forth of bisexual behavior. The issue of homosexuality has held national interest based on the controversy of homosexual marriage. But bisexuality is the much larger issue of our changing times.